Moving On The Break Up Is Over

Moving On The Break Up Is Over

Often moving on (break up, decline or other significant change) is challenging.  It is seldom uncomplicated except if you are so happy to get out of a circumstance that you cannot wait to make improvements and move on.  A break up upsets your entire life.  Almost everything you do and see appears to remind you of your ex.  If you had a lot of common friends, even going out to keep from going mad can be hard.  

One of the greatest difficulties you have to experience when you are ready to move on is your family and friends.  If your ex was a favorite with your family, you are going to get weary of queries about the predicament.  You must make clear to them that you are moving on, the break up is over, and that you do not enjoy continuously being reminded of your ex and the previous relationship.  

Often this is tough for family to cope with.  They want to keep bringing up the individual in the expectation that you will get back together.  You can simply explain, “I'm moving on, the break up is over, that is that.”  Ultimately they are going to come around due to the fact they are your family and they love you.  It is most likely going to be tougher to deal with when it comes to your friends. 

If you did not have a lot of common friends, then it should be less of an issue.  But, if the two of you frequently hung out with the identical group of individuals, then you going by yourself to be with those friends is going to appear unusual to everybody for awhile. And then there is the dilemma of your ex looking to hang out with the friends, as well.  You may even run into each other as you each attempt to hang out with your mutual friends.  This does not signify that you can't hang around with your friends. It’s just going to be more challenging to maintain some of those friendships once the relationship is over. 

As challenging as it appears to be, when you say, “Moving on, the break up is history,” you may have to give up some of those friendships.  You and your ex may each have to keep in touch with only certain friends in your set of common friends.  Just try to sustain good contact and relationships with those you are nearest to and make it possible for your ex to do the same with the others. While this can be uncomfortable, it is most likely easiest on everybody because they do not have to decide on which of you to be faithful to and which to stay away from. 

Often the “moving on break up” period of time is simply too hard when you are encircled by mutual friends and so many places to go together.  If feasible, go on a vacation to get away from the same surroundings and individuals.  Take a trip with a friend who is not included in the circumstance; perhaps a friend of yours who was not friends with your ex.  This can assist you get some perspective. Once you have declared, “moving on; the break up is over” then if you can take some time apart it can help you a great deal.

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