Still In Love

Still In Love

You may believe that you are still in love, but your ex is not. This is a tough problem.  First, you do not truly know that your ex is not continue to be in love with you, as well.  Your ex may have professed not to love you anymore, and that is possible.  But it is also possible that he or she even now has feelings for you.  A lot of couples who continue to love each other quite a lot break up for various reasons despite continuing to have affection for their partner.  

If you can genuinely state, I am still in love my ex, there is a good possibility your ex may continue to love you.  But that does not actually mean it is a good notion to attempt to get back with each other.  You broke up for a cause. Even if you did not want to break up and the break off was completely your ex’s decision, seriously consider the consequences of getting back together.  It is unusual that a person cannot think back and see good reasons why the break-up may be for the best.  It is not often easy initially when you are still in so much pain from the break-up, but with time you will most likely see that the break-up may even be beneficial for you.  

If the break-up was reciprocal and now you are having a hard time because you believe that you are still in love and my ex should be here with me, then it is even more significant that you take a look at why you agreed upon the break-up initially.  Yes, there is a possibility that a mutual break up was an error.  But if you will truly look back at the reasons you both had for calling it quits, you may find that is better to love your ex from a distance and work through the unhappiness instead of trying to revive the relationship. 

I am still in love and even my ex wants to get back together is another scenario.  While this may make you experience hope that the two of you may be able to work out in the relationship and live contentedly, do not be tricked into thinking that it will be simple.  The factors causing the break-up continue to be still present.  If you get back with each other, what will change?  Your relationship may go along nicely for a while because you are both satisfied to be back together. Make sure and take care of any problems that still may be present by considering counseling.  

If you split up thinking, I am still in love my ex, and he or she believed the same so you got back together, you will go through a honeymoon phase just as you did when you were a new couple.  You will both think that you saved the relationship and kept each other from making a awful blunder.  But that feel good honeymoon time will wear off sooner or later. And then what will you do? 

How are you going to avoid the issues that prompted you to break up in the first place from coming back and making you want to part ways again? Couples counseling is a good option.  If you believe that you are still in love with your ex and want him or her back, consider counseling to keep old issues from breaking you up once again.

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